If it’s a guy who likes you but isn’t totally ready for a serious relationship

When you sleep with a guy before you really know him, it’s easy for him to assume that any other guy could have done it. When you sleep with him after getting to know who he truly is, he believes that you slept with him because of how amazing he is and that you wouldn’t have given in so easily if it were any other guy. See the distinction?

As for my friend, I tried helping her get back on track but their relationship had sunk too deep into the booty call zone and couldn’t be resuscitated. She tried to not see him unless it was on a date (and he found ways to dodge that and was only free when he could come over for sex and was always too busy when she suggested an activity), she didn’t reply to his sexts, and she tried to learn more about him, but nothing worked and eventually he just faded away into the abyss.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long should you wait to sleep with someone? If you want a relationship with this person, wait until he has shown he is invested in you and genuinely cares about you. Remember, the quantity of dates is meaningless, it’s the quality of the time spent together that matters.

On average, how many dates do people go on before they sleep together? That really depends, but not very many!

Do guys lose respect if you sleep with them? No, I wouldn’t say they lose respect per se. They may lose interest, but usually a guy who loses interest after sex wasn’t really all that interested in the first place. Maybe he liked matchA you… but didn’t like you enough. It all really comes down to your intention. If you sleep with him in order to get him to like you, yes, he may lose respect for you because that’s a degrading thing to do.

What does he think after you sleep with him? Again, it depends on circumstances. If it’s a guy who really likes you, he’ll be ecstatic! .. he may pump the breaks a little bit to keep things moving at a more leisurely pace. If he was only attracted to you but not super interested in you… he may feel worried you’re going to get too attached. But no man, at least no emotionally healthy man, will feel repulsed by a woman for the mere fact that she slept with him.

What signs might he show if he regrets sleeping with you? He will probably avoid you, withdraw, act cold toward you, or flat out ghost you.

We’re not exclusive or official yet, but I know he slept with someone else. What should I do with this information? You need to get clear on what you want. If he wants to keep things open and you just can’t handle it, then he isn’t the right man for you.

If you want an exclusive relationship and the fact that he slept with someone else feels devastating to you, talk to him about it

I tried to stifle my laughter at the absurdity of her statement. “Okay, well, tell me this. What did you actually know about this guy? What do you know about him that you couldn’t find out from his online dating profile or social media pages?”

The issue isn’t how long you wait – a guy who really likes you won’t hold it against you if you sleep with him early on. The issue is that men don’t value what they perceive is readily and easily available to all other men.